Teenage Love Story: Love or Infatuation
Just like adults, teenagers can admit of this longing for love and feeling of love. This teen age is filled with desires to love and be loved, accept and be accepted. One thing is responsible for this feeling: it is called puberty. Puberty is a growth process that every child passes through to become a medically fit adult. During this period, the young human beings come to the consciousness of identifying with his person as well as with other human beings most especially his or her contemporary. This consciousness is responsible for the love life at teenage.
It is admissible that this period is clouded with lots of emotional feelings which may never attain full expression towards the opposite sex. So, it is customary to view young people’s dating relationships and first relationships as infatuation especially when it is in at an early stage of love.
So the question is, “when this feeling or perhaps consciousness emerges, what am I experiencing?” Is it infatuation or love? The best way to respond to this question is to clarify what both terms refer to.
Love is when you care very strongly and very deeply about another person. When you love someone, you are there to support them, you work together to solve problems, you’re willing to stand by this person in good times and bad, and you wish nothing more than to watch and help this person grow.
Infatuation has a few great things going for it too. Infatuation gives you goose bumps. It puts that silly smile on your face that you can’t seem to shake. It fills your mind with wonderful daydreams. And, of course, many love relationships start out as infatuation.
Both feelings appear similar but they are really distinct. One can infer that love is an unconditional willingness to commit oneself to the opposite sex with a view to seek the happiness of the other first. On the other hand, infatuation is a feeling of excitement or force of attraction towards a person. In other words, love centers on deriving your joy from satisfying the other party’s delight while infatuation centers on meeting the requirements of the other party in order to feed your delight.
For better clarification, it is good to highlight some differences between both terms.
- Love develops gradually over time. Infatuation occurs almost instantaneously.
- Love can last a long time. It becomes deeper and more powerful over time. Infatuation is powerful, but short-lived.
- Love accepts the whole person, imperfections and all. Infatuation flourishes on perfection – you have an idealized image of your partner and you only show your partner your good side.
- Love is more than physical attraction. Infatuation focuses on the physical.
- Love improves your overall disposition. Infatuation brings out jealousy and possessiveness. It causes you to neglect other relationships.
- Love considers the other person. Infatuation is selfish.
- Love is being in love with a person. Infatuation is being in love with love.